Swinger’s Détente...
Maybe it is because so many of us are children of the cold war as opposed to the boomers of the Great
War. Perhaps it is because we thought it was funny when President Regan said off-handedly, “We will
begin bombing Russia in five minutes”. Whatever the reason is, we are often asked about discretion and
how someone can attend a swing party and still be assured discretion.
Our answer has been the same time and time again – Swinger’s Détente.
No one says anything because we are all consenting adults and everyone has equal exposure.
Still not convinced?
Here are few tips if you are still insecure about your security.
common definition of the word) and no one wants a picture of them in a compromising position hung on
the office bulletin board.
Hence the answer – Swinger’s Détente.
Speaking of the office, the other issue we here frequently, “What if I see someone I know?” The answer is
still the same. The only difference here is that like a well equipped super-power you both have a lot more
intelligence about the other person. So the axiom remains the same and the night continues under the
protection of Swinger’s Détente.
Oh yes, one last thought. Once you have attended your first swing party you will get so caught up in the
people, the excitement, and the fun that you will never needlessly fret about other's discretion, your
security or anonymity again.
Promise.
War. Perhaps it is because we thought it was funny when President Regan said off-handedly, “We will
begin bombing Russia in five minutes”. Whatever the reason is, we are often asked about discretion and
how someone can attend a swing party and still be assured discretion.
Our answer has been the same time and time again – Swinger’s Détente.
No one says anything because we are all consenting adults and everyone has equal exposure.
Still not convinced?
Here are few tips if you are still insecure about your security.
- • Parties, while they may seem overwhelming to those who have never been are probably
much more “secure” then meeting others one-on-one. At a party you can smile, excuse yourself
and head off to another room without ever saying a word. Meeting someone at coffee shop you
are certain to divulge a lot more personal information then just a flash of bicep or cleavage.
- • You can always meet someone at a party and set a time to chat and play later; something
that is harder to do if you meet your prospective swing partner(s) one-on-one for dinner or at a club.
• Play out of town. People are often surprised to hear that many if our guests travel more then
100 miles to attend one of our soirées. One benefit for them is the opportunity to be away from
their hometown and be totally anonymous.
• Create an anonymous email address. Go to Yahoo, Hotmail, or G-mail and establish an
account. They are free and require little to no personal information. What information you do
provide is not verified.
- • It is OK to use an alias online. Currently we have three couples named John & Sue and four
guys named George on our guest list. (Though George swears he was the only one in high
school.) However, if you do start to develop a rapport with another couple or person, dropping the
alias would be both advisable and polite.
common definition of the word) and no one wants a picture of them in a compromising position hung on
the office bulletin board.
Hence the answer – Swinger’s Détente.
Speaking of the office, the other issue we here frequently, “What if I see someone I know?” The answer is
still the same. The only difference here is that like a well equipped super-power you both have a lot more
intelligence about the other person. So the axiom remains the same and the night continues under the
protection of Swinger’s Détente.
Oh yes, one last thought. Once you have attended your first swing party you will get so caught up in the
people, the excitement, and the fun that you will never needlessly fret about other's discretion, your
security or anonymity again.
Promise.
